Tag: Overwhelm
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Triangulation: When Workload Becomes a Third Person in the Relationship
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There are times in relationships when the conflict between two people is not entirely about the relationship itself. A partner may appear distant, irritable, emotionally shut down or constantly distracted. Small conversations become tense. Minor frustrations escalate more quickly than they once did. One partner may begin pursuing reassurance while…
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When Work Becomes Easier Than Home
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There are times in relationships when work stops being just a place of employment and gradually becomes something more psychologically significant. For some people, work becomes the place where they feel most competent, most regulated and most certain of themselves. Decisions feel clearer. Expectations feel more predictable. Problems appear more…
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Overwhelm and Choice
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One of the things I’ve learned, both in life and in the counselling room, is that when people are overwhelmed, choice can feel like a burden rather than a gift. Clients often arrive feeling stuck in their lives, their work, or their relationships, carrying a sense that something isn’t right…
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The Importance of Psychoeducation in Therapy
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In therapy, it’s very easy for all of us to become focused on the symptom. After many years working with individuals and couples in counselling, and before that in policing and high-pressure organisational environments, I’ve seen this pattern repeat itself across settings and presentations. The panic attack. The anger outburst.…
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When Calm Feels Overwhelming:
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Why “Normal” Can Be the Hardest State to Tolerate and how to gently build the capacity to use your tools again. Many people seek counselling because life feels overwhelming, chaotic, or relentlessly stressful. What is less commonly spoken about is a far more confusing experience: becoming overwhelmed when life finally…
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Kink, BDSM, and Overwhelm: When Behaviour Helps — and When It Doesn’t
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I’ve been thinking about a conversation I had recently. Not because it was dramatic or confronting, but because it quietly made sense in an important way. I was talking with someone who openly engages in BDSM. This wasn’t therapy and it wasn’t a formal counselling conversation. It was simply a…